the feeling of satisfaction, pleasure, joy, commitment and delight is much more
meaningful than its literal meanings. If someone says he is happy it means he
is satisfied with the present situation around him. He is experiencing life the
way he wants. Your relationships are going well, your boss is satisfied with
your work and you are in good health. This is temporary happiness since it is
dependent on certain conditions, being the way, one wants them to be. If your
partner is angry or you are not fulfilling expectations of your boss, your
sense of happiness vanishes. Temporary happiness is with short-term gain at the
long-term expense. It can be health, relationship or personal growth. For
example, working twenty-four seven in the office behind success and money while
neglecting personal health and family (Atkinson).
of temporary happiness is grounded in the faith that true happiness exists
outside us. True happiness is completely different from temporary happiness.
True happiness deals with personal satisfaction, a deep sense of inner
well-being. As Mark Twain suggests, the best way to cheer yourself is to cheer
someone up. A rich sensation of gratitude is felt by the people who have
genuine happiness. A contrast of temporary happiness is dependent on current
situations and comes and goes with time while true happiness is independent of
life states. Truly happy people feel the emotions of gratitude and livelihood
deeply and wholly.
a person gets caught in his own emotions when is he depressed or tensed. He
thinks more about his problems, imagines himself in worst conditions, and these
thoughts get darker. To such a person, moving forward from that situation
appears impossible. He can cheer himself up by bringing happiness into another
person’s life. This accomplishes many things.
helping others gives internal satisfaction. When you see other people smile
because of you, there is an inner happiness. Secondly, knowing their situations
and helping them makes one feel that one’s life is not that tragic as one feels
and overthinks in one’s mind. There is a Chinese saying, which states, “If you
want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go
fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want
happiness for a lifetime, help somebody” (Santi). Passion is the foundation of
giving. Sometimes the quantity we give doesn’t matter but it is the love we put
that matters. Just a smile is enough to make another person’s day.
some people who are depressed and sad don’t expect any financial aid, all they
need is a person with whom they can share everything with, lending a listening
ear to them is a huge favor, comforting someone in grief is a great help. Often,
a hug and kind words matter a lot when someone has lost his loved one or has
experienced any kind of tragedy. Needy people who are living their lives hand
to mouth want financial support. Small effort means a lot to them, for example,
if you are in the possession of something you don’t use, donating it to needy
people would be a great favor for them.
Aristotle said, “True happiness and fulfillment is attained by loving others
rather than being loved.” Showing appreciation publicly, praising someone in
front of their coworkers or family members to make them feel confident,
motivating someone to get active, doing volunteer works, tutor kids for free
for those who can’t afford tutors, offer to babysit children to help busy
parents who need a break, using your voice in favor of those that are right are
examples. Although you may not gain from all these, what matters is the love
you give to others.
is a famous saying of Saint Francis of Assisi which states, “For it is in
giving that we receive.” A new world where everyone would follow the rule that happiness is only derived from helping
others, there would be an air of love everywhere. No one would commit
suicide due to loneliness or their problems. They will have people to listen to
them, people to support them emotionally. In a world whereby, brilliant
students will help the weak students in their studies, no weak kid will have to
cheat to pass an exam. A world in which the rich would help the poor
financially. A world in which there won’t be any discrimination, crimes like
robbery and assassination won’t exist anymore, as no one would feel the need to
fulfill their needs using unjust ways.
Everyone will join hands to move forward together and this world will
turn into an ideal place to live in.
let’s look at karma. When someone helps you to do something that you cannot do or
helps you to do something with a better result, you feel happiness within. It’s
very simple when you help others to gain their result they will feel such happiness
as well, however, in the way of karma, you will earn the other’s help which
will also make you happy in return. Likewise, if you believe in karma, you will
help others earn real happiness.